Wolinsky states that meditation is a "no-trance state in which a person's perceptions and observations flow unobstructed".
As Gary Zukav writes in Seat of the Soul:
"The conflicts of a human's life are directly proportional to the distance at which the energy of the personality exists separately from the soul... When a personality is in full balance, you cannot see where it ends and the soul begins. That is a whole human being."
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Shame as a Control-pattern
"There is a way of breathing that's shame and suffocation
And there's another way of expiring, a love-breath that lets you open infinitely."
Rumi
We reviewed shame as a control-pattern in our dominance-based culture in Part Five.
Guilt says: "I did not do what I was supposed to do (or vice-versa)." It says: "I made a mistake." Shame is not a matter of "doing," but rather of "being." Shame says, "I am a mistake."
Shaming others is a kissing cousin to judging them. It is not uncommon for us to judge each other. Both serve to keep the control paradigm in place by disempowering us.
Admitting we have judgments is an act of open self-disclosure: rather than projecting them onto another person we take responsibility for our own judgments. In essence we realize: "These are my thoughts. I created them and their contents belong to me, rather than necessarily referring to the other person."
By seeing our own process - owning and at times sharing it - we can get some distance from it - and then let it go more quickly. Becoming authentic means owning our own shame and our penchant for judging others. Learning to prize, treasure and value ourselves and others is a key to peace. This is akin to learning to love all life-forms - including our own --- "including ourselves in our circle of compassion."
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