And there was no permission given, no clear "yes" offered, then something went wrong. (And where disabled people are concerned "yes" can be not enough, depending on the disability, and where children are concerned, just NO.)
Don't hate yourself. But take steps to change it. Reach out and apologize or admit your cruelty if you were the doer, talk to the safest person for you, in your situation, if you are the done-to.
Sex and sexuality are interesting and exciting and filled with valuable fun, love, learning, and exploration. I encourage us to do the work of making sure it is done carefully and mindfully.
We have to change the culture around this issue. We have to be not afraid to ask for sex while we aren't afraid to say no. We have to teach each other that it is never ever okay to push or force or sneak in unwelcome touches.
No means no. And even more, you need permission.
It's simple, really.
Let's make sure everyone gets the memo.
Let's change the culture.
We've got to.
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