In short, unless one is already at level 3 or 4 in communication, one cannot and will not reach level 5. Likewise, one cannot be truly committed to confronting issues and forgiving one another and really being able to move on with one's marriage, if one has no real marriage covenant at heart.
In short, "covenant marriage" is based not only in our vows and oral commitments or oral covenants (or even in oral or written contracts), but it is based in covenantal commitments for each partner to communicate with the other positively while confronting issues while working through issues "till death do us part".
This fifth level of commitment to "loving and genuine truth talk" with one's partner must involve the most real attempts by both parties to confront issues. Moreover, it involves the most real acceptance of our differences and feelings in time (and through) or over time.
WHAT ABOUT THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES, MR. CHAPMAN?
http://www.lifeway.com/ev/files/evF_Top_10_Issues_Facing_Todays_Family.pdf
The most disappointing thing about NOW YOU'RE SPEAKING MY LANGUAGE seems to me to be that in no way during the opening chapters of this book does the author, Gary Chapman, seek to tie in his five love languages model to the communication he talks about this work. In this way, the reader is left expecting something which never arrives.
This does not distract too much from Chapman's message and advice to couples to remember and to be committed to convents and communication. However, it does diminish the importance of the five love languages model, i.e. if an avid reader, such as myself, cannot find a connection between the earlier lessons of Chapman's Love Language and his more current messages to couples.
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